5 ways to help me and my cause.

1) Purchase my book and leave a review

Reviews are the number one driver of book purchase (plus, I would love to hear your feedback!). Raising awareness of GBV is my main goal, it is within my skill set and passion. Telling my story is the main vehicle through which I want to tell my story.

2) Leave a donation

I have a wish list of things I would like to achieve to at least make a dent in ending GBV, I want to make my story accessible to as many people who need to hear it.

3) Report abuse that you see, hear, or suspect.

Assume that no one else cares enough to do anything, do not let anyone’s screams go unheeded. You do not need to get involved in a domestic dispute, you can report anonymously. Trying to get in between an angry man and ‘his woman’ is a hazard – click here for information on where you can report abuse anonymously. Even if law enforcement does not play its part, I can assure you that just knowing that someone at least cared enough to try to help would have made such a huge impact on me when I needed it. The fact that no one tried to do anything was deeply hurtful.

The world is a dangerous place to live; not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don’t do anything about it.

Albert Einstein

4) Seek help if you are a victim

There are people who care, there are people who hear you and believe you and want to help you! You don’t have to go through the legal system, but you don’t have to go through it alone either. Click here for organisations where you can look for help.

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5) Men, we need you 

If you are a man in a position to have influence over others, speak out. You have the voices to make change, it is not a comfortable topic to talk about, but it is real. It does not happen ‘out there’ and we need MEN to change the narrative. Women cannot solve this problem, only men can. Speak to your bro’s, start the conversation, call the men in your life out if you see or hear about abusive behaviour..

“As South African men, let us take responsibility for our actions. We must treat the women and girls of our country with care and respect.”

Cyril Ramaphosa

How can GBV affect men?

GBV has an ongoing effect. It has an impact on a boy or man’s or their ability to work efficiently and make decisions, especially in relation to concerns of fertility and reproductive health. It also has an impact on their self-esteem, physical, psychological, and sexual health.

What are the reasons that males experience violence?

The deterioration of morals.  The emancipation of women and the adoption of Western customs. The changing role of women in the home. Men’s failure to support their own families.